Too Busy to be Free

For some reason, lately, i’ve been hearing a lot of people “complaining” about how busy they are.  How hectic their schedule is.  How much they got goin on.  They say it with an apparent frustration that really echoes of a conspicuous pride.  As if, somehow, their poor time management or inability to accurately assess their capacity demonstrates their productive humanity.

But as my man pointed out, it’s not a lack of time they suffer from.   It’s a lack of commitment.

We make time for the things we value.  Identify them (what we need vs. what we want), commit to them, and see them through.  Trying to juggle 7 tasks and tellin the world about i results in the accomplishment of none.

Let’s focus on checking things off the list, not adding them on.


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2 Responses to Too Busy to be Free

  1. Courtney says:

    Does it really echo a conspicuous pride? Is it pride (of this hecticness) for pride’s own sake? …or could that pride simply be a disguise for a call for help?

    When you think of the values in our society (materialism, individualism, etc), think of how those conflict with values of Afrocentric societies (communal), and then regard people around you as products thereof, such lack of self-assessment may make more sense to you. I’m not saying that it’s correct. Rather, I’m pointing out a sociological reason for compassion over complaint (even though it does seem like a constructive complaint).
    Americans of African descent spent the last century learning to work 2x as hard as the average working American just to earn the same results–material gain, which often meant security for one’s family. Inwardly, one is going to have conflict with this imbalance of effort, even if s/he went into his/her field aware of the injustice. Very often, this conflict ended up in justifying the underlying cognitive dissonance with Christian spirituality, and passing such a mindset–“take on more to produce less, but keep going because God sees it”– to the next generation.
    When one is trained to think this way, to be proud to act this way, and to never waste time seeking a solution for a situation that, although it hurts, is the way it’s “supposed” to be, it makes sense that one may need help, extra insight, and compassion before seeing that s/he is stuck in a flawed time cycle.
    Indeed, let us focus on checking things off instead of adding them on… but also, let those who’ve got it downpacked help the rest to see the light.

  2. amari says:

    Word, Courtney. i think you’re on to something when you bring up mainstream values. In this context, i really feel it has to do with this constant pursuit of “productivity,” which is a reflection of “value.” And that only comes about through “work,” so perhaps folks feel like if they are staying busy, they are being productive (which, of course, does not naturally follow). i’ve discovered, through conversations with folks, that many times this really serves to call their attention away from areas of their lives that really do need attention…the less glamorous parts of it all.
    Any other thoughts?

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